Dear Diary,
As mentioned previously, I thought I would start dating again. And whenever I think of dating and meeting someone, this song always plays in my head, “If you play your cards right, everything will be alright, if you play your cards right with me”. Yeah, cause I’m a good catch, and when I’m in, I’m all the way in. Spoil you rotten, cater to you, random surprises, every day is an adventure, just because massages, cook and serve you in bed, kind of all in. The whole bit.
So while I’m out here with my deck of cards, looking for some queens or kings, why do I keep ending up with jokers?
To be honest, I’ve not had to put much effort into dating in the past. I go out, I want to meet someone, then BAM, I do, and we’re together. Hey, it just always worked out that way, lol. I’ve been putting in some real work here, and I’m just stunned at how people actually date. And I’m not just talking about in the last 2 weeks that I’ve decided to date while living in my car or during the pandemic. Though I’ve been single for 3 years, I’ve been dipping my toes in the water a bit, meeting men and women. I’ve been shocked by what I see!
Lack of communication is the worst of it. I could go on and on, but the more I talk about it, the more flustered I become. But on the flip side, the more I experience these horrendous dates, the more motivated I am to offer my services as a dating and relationships coach… because a lot of folks need it. And that’s how you turn a negative into a positive, folks. Onwards and upwards!
There are always going to be a lot of Jokers that you pull out the deck before you pull out kings and queens.You go through the joker stage, then you go through the actual king and queen stage. You have to think of the joker stage as a learning stage. Especially since it has been a minute since you dated. With the Joker stage, you can figure out what you want. What kind of person you want in your life. You might have that in mind already but the joker stage show your readiness about being in a relationship. That’s how I see it. You need the joker before the real deal. Because we want to know for sure what we are looking for in relationships and definitely don’t want to mess up and make mistakes.